Healing Together: Working Through PTSD in Relationships

"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit." - Psalm 34:18 

Reflection 

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can be a heavy burden to bear, affecting not only the individual but also their relationships, especially with a spouse. The emotional and psychological scars of trauma can create distance and misunderstandings, making it difficult to connect and find solace in each other. However, Psalm 34:18 offers a profound reminder that the Lord is near to those who have a broken heart and saves those with a contrite spirit. This scripture reassures us that God is always present, offering comfort and healing in our times of distress. 

In the context of a marriage, this verse encourages us to see our spouse as a source of healing and support. Just as God is near to us in our brokenness, our spouse can be a tangible expression of God's love and comfort. When PTSD symptoms flare up, it is essential to lean on the support and understanding of our partner. The journey through PTSD is not meant to be walked alone; it is a shared path where both partners can find strength and solace in each other and in their faith. 

Personal Application 

Working through PTSD in relationships requires patience, communication, and a willingness to seek help. Here are some steps to consider: 

• Acknowledge the Impact: Recognize how PTSD affects your relationships. This awareness is the first step towards healing. It allows you to understand your triggers and how they influence your interactions with others. 

• Open Communication: Share your experiences and feelings with your loved ones. Honest communication helps them understand what you are going through and how they can support you. It also fosters a sense of connection and trust. 

• Seek Professional Help: Therapy can be a valuable resource for both individuals with PTSD and their partners. A therapist can provide strategies to manage symptoms and improve relationship dynamics. Couples therapy can also be beneficial in addressing specific relationship challenges. 

• Practice Self-Care: Taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being is crucial. Engage in activities that promote relaxation and reduce stress. This can include exercise, meditation, and hobbies that bring you joy. 

• Set Boundaries: Establishing healthy boundaries is essential in any relationship, especially when dealing with PTSD. Communicate your needs and limits clearly to your loved ones. This helps prevent misunderstandings and ensures that you feel safe and respected. 

• Lean on Your Faith: Trust in God's comfort and guidance. Prayer, reading scripture, and participating in a faith community can provide strength and encouragement. Remember that God is with you every step of the way, offering His unwavering support. 

Prayer 

Dear Heavenly Father, we thank You for Your comfort and mercy. We ask Your support for those facing PTSD and its impact on relationships. Grant them strength to seek help, open communication, and surround them with compassion. Give patience and resilience to all affected. May they find peace, healing, and restoration in Your love. In Jesus’ name, Amen. 

Written by Sarah Leasure