“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” - Psalm 147:3
Reflection
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an invisible wound, a silent companion that lingers in the aftermath of overwhelming experiences. Unlike physical injuries, the pain of PTSD often goes unseen, but its effects ripple through every relationship—especially the one between spouses. There may be days when fear or anxiety rise unexpectedly, or nights when memories play like unwelcome visitors, disrupting peace and rest. For those walking this journey, and for those who love them, the path can feel lonely and uncertain.
Yet in the quiet hush of Psalm 147:3, we hear a promise whispered by the heart of God: “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” The image is gentle and deliberate. God does not rush the brokenhearted through their pain, nor does He overlook wounds that cannot be seen by others. Instead, He draws close, tending to each hurt, wrapping the soul in compassion and patience. God’s healing is not always instant, but it is always intentional, meeting us in the places where we feel most raw and vulnerable.
This scripture is not just a comfort for the one who suffers, but also for the one who stands beside them. Spouses, too, are invited into this sacred work of healing. When trauma creates distance or misunderstanding, when the shadows of the past threaten the light of love, God’s presence becomes the unyielding foundation upon which spouses can build bridges of grace. Healing, in the context of marriage, is both a personal and a shared experience. It is the slow, steadfast work of two hearts trusting God for strength, wisdom, and tenderness, even as they navigate moments of pain or confusion together.
PTSD may convince us that we are alone, that no one can truly understand the depths of our wounds. But the story of scripture and the testimony of countless couples say otherwise. God is both the gentle healer and the wise guide, equipping spouses to walk with empathy, patience, and hope. In the hands of God, what was once fractured can be restored—not only for the individual, but for the relationship as a whole.
Personal Application
If you or your spouse is walking through the valley of PTSD, know that your experience is valid, and your journey matters to God. There is no shame in carrying wounds; there is only the invitation to bring those wounds into the light of God’s presence and, when possible, into the safe embrace of your spouse. Healing begins with honesty—with ourselves, with God, and with each other.
Consider what it means to let your spouse see your brokenness, or to lovingly hold space for their pain. Vulnerability can feel risky, but in marriage, it can also be the birthplace of deeper intimacy. Trust is built in small, daily choices: the gentle word instead of the harsh reply, the listening ear instead of a quick solution, the silent presence beside a trembling hand. When you invite your spouse into your healing, or when you step gently into theirs, you mirror the character of Christ—one who draws close, who listens, who loves without condition.
At the same time, it is vital to recognize the importance of seeking help beyond the marriage. Professional counseling, support groups, and community resources are tools that God can use to bring deeper healing. Spouses are companions in the journey, not the sole source of restoration. God, in His wisdom, often brings healing through a tapestry of people, practices, and prayers. Do not be afraid to reach out for help, or to encourage your spouse to do the same.
Above all, anchor your relationship in prayer and the promises of God’s Word. Pray together, even if the words are simple or few. Speak truth over each other, especially when the wounds of the past threaten to overwhelm hope. Remember that healing is a process, not a destination, and that God walks with you at every step, binding up wounds and strengthening what is fragile.
Prayer
Heavenly Father, we come to You with unseen wounds and thank You for healing the brokenhearted. We ask for Your comfort over each area affected by trauma in ourselves, our spouse, and our marriage. Grant us vulnerability, patience, compassion, and peace. Draw us together, guide us to support, and teach us to pray for one another. We trust Your love to restore and renew us. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Written by Sarah Leasure
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