“Therefore, putting away lying, let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor, for we are members of one another.” — Ephesians 4:25
Reflection
Honesty is a cornerstone of every thriving marriage. God’s Word calls us to speak truth to one another, recognizing that we are not just individuals but members of the same body, intimately connected. In marriage, this connection is even deeper—your spouse is your closest neighbor, your lifelong companion. When honesty prevails, trust takes root, and intimacy flourishes. But when dishonesty creeps in, whether through little white lies or withheld truths, cracks begin to form in the foundation of your relationship.
The Bible does not just encourage honesty because it is morally right; it reveals that truthfulness is essential for unity. Ephesians 4:25 reminds us to put away lying and embrace truth in our relationships. Dishonesty, even with good intentions, creates distance and breeds suspicion. Over time, it can lead to misunderstandings, broken trust, and emotional isolation. Yet, when we choose to be honest—even when it’s uncomfortable or vulnerable—we invite God’s light into our marriage. Truth exposes what is hidden and allows for healing, forgiveness, and growth.
Being honest with your spouse does not mean sharing every passing thought or emotion without care. It means being genuine, transparent, and willing to reveal your true self. This kind of honesty requires courage, humility, and a commitment to love your spouse enough to be real. It is not about pointing out faults or airing grievances harshly, but about building a relationship where both partners feel safe to share, listen, and grow together. The benefits of truthfulness are profound: deeper intimacy, stronger trust, and a marriage that reflects the love and unity God desires for His people.
Personal Application
Fostering honesty in your marriage begins with a daily choice to speak the truth in love. Start by examining your own heart: Are there areas where you feel tempted to hide, minimize, or embellish the truth? Ask God to reveal anything that needs to come into the light. When you feel anxious about being honest, remember that vulnerability is a doorway to deeper connection. Share your thoughts, feelings, and struggles with your spouse, trusting that honesty—spoken kindly—will strengthen your bond.
Overcoming the fear of honesty often means facing uncomfortable emotions: shame, embarrassment, or fear of rejection. These feelings are normal, but they don’t have to control you. Before difficult conversations, pray and ask God for wisdom and courage. Approach your spouse with humility, expressing your desire to grow together. Listen as much as you speak, and honor your spouse’s honesty, even when it is hard to hear. Building trust through transparency is a process, not a one-time event. Celebrate small steps of honesty as victories, and extend grace when mistakes happen. In time, you’ll find that honesty becomes a habit, and your marriage will flourish because of it.
Thought-Provoking Questions
- Are there any truths you’ve been hesitant to share with your spouse? What fears or concerns are holding you back?
- How do you respond when your spouse is honest with you, especially about something difficult? What might help you become a safer listener?
- What practical steps can you take this week to create an environment where honesty is welcomed and valued in your marriage?
- How can inviting God into your conversations help you overcome the barriers to honesty and build deeper trust?
Prayer
Father God, thank You for calling us to live in truth and for showing us the power of honesty through Your Word. Give me courage to be honest with my spouse, even when it feels vulnerable or difficult. Help us both to listen with grace and respond with understanding. Remove any barriers that keep us from sharing openly, and heal the places where dishonesty has brought pain or distance. Fill our marriage with Your wisdom and love, making it a place where truth is spoken and trust is strong. Guide us daily as we seek to honor You in our words and actions. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
***The Ten Commandments of Christian Marriage Devotions are not intended to serve as definitive commandments on marriage; rather, they should be regarded as constructive guidelines founded upon biblical principles, designed to safeguard and strengthen your marriage and its enduring legacy.***
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