Brave Conversations: Embracing Aspirations

"Therefore comfort each other and edify one another, just as you also are doing." — 1 Thessalonians 5:11

Reflection

Opening up to your spouse about your dreams and personal goals can be a little nerve-wracking. These hopes—maybe it’s changing careers, writing a book, growing in faith, or going back to school—often come straight from the heart. Sharing them means letting your partner see what truly matters to you, including your worries and insecurities. It’s natural to feel unsure about how they’ll react. Will they get it? Will they be supportive, or will it spark tough questions or disagreements about what’s most important?

Still, making space for these conversations is crucial for a strong, connected marriage. When you talk honestly about your dreams and worries, you give each other the chance to be truly known and supported. Regularly sharing what’s on your heart helps avoid misunderstandings and keeps you from feeling alone in your journey. Instead of drifting apart, you grow closer—celebrating each other’s wins, comforting each other through setbacks, and building trust as you work toward both shared and individual goals.

Bringing faith into the mix makes these talks even more meaningful. When you pray together about your goals, you’re reminding each other that your marriage is more than just the two of you—it’s a partnership with God. Trusting Him with your dreams brings comfort and clarity, and helps you remember He’s got a purpose for you both, together and apart. Even if the conversation feels awkward, inviting God in can turn it into a moment of growth, connection, and love.

Personal Application

When you’re ready to talk about your goals, pick a calm, relaxed time. Start by sharing what’s on your mind, maybe saying, “I’ve been thinking about something I’d love to pursue,” or “There’s a dream I feel drawn to, and I want to tell you about it.” Let your spouse share their hopes too, and really listen to what’s important to them. Try to approach the conversation as teammates, not critics, remembering you both matter—to each other and to God.

Try to make these talks a regular thing. Maybe check in every few months, or at the start of a new year, and ask questions like, “Is there something new on your heart?” or “How can I support you as you chase your goal?” Setting aside time for these conversations before frustrations build up helps you both feel heard, appreciated, and connected.

If the discussion gets tough or you can’t seem to agree, don’t be afraid to seek advice. Friends, mentors, or counselors can help you see things in a new way and offer encouragement. Most importantly, lean on God together. Ask for wisdom, unity, and the courage to cheer each other on, even when things aren’t clear. Trust that God loves the partnership you’re building and will help you walk this journey side by side—sharing not only the workload, but your dreams and your hearts.

Thought-Provoking Questions

1. What emotions or fears arise when you think about sharing your personal goals and dreams with your spouse?
2. How can you and your partner create a safe space to talk about aspirations, even when they might lead to change or new challenges?
3. What rhythms or practices could help you revisit your goals regularly, ensuring you continue to grow together?
4. How might inviting God into your conversations about dreams and ambitions shape your attitudes and your unity as a couple?

Prayer

God, thank You for giving each of us dreams and gifts that make us who we are. Help us find the courage to share what’s on our hearts with each other, and the patience to listen with kindness and understanding. Teach us to walk together, supporting and cheering each other on as we grow. When these conversations feel tough or uncertain, fill us with Your wisdom and a sense of peace. Remind us to trust Your timing and Your plans for our lives and our marriage. Let our journey together bring You honor, and may our dreams help us grow closer—to each other and to You. Amen.