"But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."
— 1 Timothy 5:8
Reflection
In the busyness of life, it’s easy for our priorities to become muddled. Work, children, church activities, friendships, and countless other responsibilities all compete for our attention. Yet, after our relationship with God, Scripture calls us to prioritize our spouse above all else. 1 Timothy 5:8 reminds us of our responsibility to care for our families—not just in practical ways, but also emotionally and spiritually. When we place our spouse right after God in our list of priorities, we honor both the sacred covenant of marriage and God’s design for family.
Sometimes, it can feel challenging to keep our spouse next in line, especially when other voices and needs seem urgent. There are seasons when work deadlines pile up, children’s activities fill the calendar, or even ministry duties draw us in different directions. In these moments, it’s important to remember that our first calling—after loving God—is to love, serve, and cherish the person we vowed to walk through life with. This isn’t just about grand gestures; it’s about being present, attentive, and willing to put their needs ahead of our own preferences or outside demands.
Prioritizing your spouse doesn’t mean neglecting other important relationships or responsibilities. Rather, it’s about creating a foundation in your marriage that equips you both to serve others more fully. When your spouse knows they are valued and secure in your love, it strengthens the bond you share and sets a powerful example for your family, friends, and community. This kind of love reflects Christ’s sacrificial love for us—a love that chooses the other’s well-being, even when it requires sacrifice or a shift in plans.
There will be times when prioritizing your spouse means saying no to good things for the sake of what is best. It may involve turning down an extra project at work, carving out intentional time together amidst a packed schedule, or simply listening with your full attention after a long day. These choices, though sometimes small, build a marriage that is resilient, joyful, and rooted in God’s priorities. The blessings that flow from a well-ordered home ripple outward, touching every area of life.
Personal Application
Living out this principle starts with honest evaluation and intentional action. Take time to ask yourself what currently has your best energy and attention. Are there areas where your spouse has felt overlooked or less important than other commitments? Begin by inviting God to reveal any misplaced priorities, and then talk openly with your spouse about ways you can both feel more connected and valued.
Make it a habit to check in regularly—whether through simple questions like “How can I support you this week?” or by setting aside dedicated time for each other, free from distractions. Small acts of service, words of affirmation, and physical affection all communicate that your spouse matters deeply to you. Consider establishing weekly date nights, praying together at the start or end of each day, or leaving encouraging notes for one another. These intentional practices remind both you and your spouse that, after God, your marriage holds a sacred space in your life.
When challenges arise, choose unity over convenience. If a conflict with your spouse comes up, let resolving it be more important than winning an argument or maintaining your comfort. Seek God’s wisdom together, and remember that your commitment to prioritize each other is a witness to your faith. Over time, these choices create a marriage marked by trust, intimacy, and lasting joy.
Thought-Provoking Questions
- Are there areas in your life where your spouse has unintentionally fallen lower on your list of priorities? What might need to change?
- How do your daily routines reflect (or challenge) your commitment to put your spouse next to God in importance?
- When competing demands arise, what helps you discern when to say yes or no for the sake of your marriage?
- How can you and your spouse work together to protect and nurture your relationship in the midst of a busy season?
Prayer
Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of marriage and for the unique bond I share with my spouse. Help me to honor You first and to love my spouse with the same devotion and care that You have shown me. Give us wisdom to order our lives well, courage to say no when needed, and grace to put each other before all else after You. Strengthen our commitment, deepen our unity, and use our marriage as a testimony of Your faithfulness to those around us. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
***The Ten Commandments of Christian Marriage Devotions are not intended to serve as definitive commandments on marriage; rather, they should be regarded as constructive guidelines founded upon biblical principles, designed to safeguard and strengthen your marriage and its enduring legacy.***
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