Gray hair is a crown of glory; it is found in the way of righteousness.
— Proverbs 16:31
Reflection
In our fast-paced world, it can be tempting to seek guidance from the latest trends or rely solely on our own understanding. Yet, the Bible reminds us of the enduring value found in the wisdom of those who have walked the journey before us. Proverbs 16:31 speaks of gray hair as a crown of glory, signifying honor gained through a life lived in pursuit of righteousness. There’s a sacred beauty in the life stories, lessons, and testimonies of older couples who have weathered the seasons of marriage—both the joys and the storms.
Listening to those who have been married for decades offers a perspective that cannot be gained from books or social media. Their love has been tested by time, refined through conflict, and deepened by forgiveness. When we sit at their feet, we discover practical wisdom: how to speak with kindness when emotions run high, how to choose unity over pride, and how to cling to faith when circumstances are uncertain. These couples often share not just victories, but also failures and regrets, inviting us to learn from their mistakes as much as their successes.
The biblical perspective on age is one of respect and reverence. In both the Old and New Testaments, elders are portrayed as sources of counsel and blessing. God, in His wisdom, asks us to honor them—not just with polite words but by listening with open hearts. When we humble ourselves to seek advice from older couples, we acknowledge that we don’t have all the answers and that God often speaks through those who have faithfully walked with Him for many years. Their stories remind us that marriage is a marathon, not a sprint, and that perseverance, grace, and prayer are foundational to lasting love.
Personal Application
Putting this principle into practice begins with humility. Start by identifying older couples in your church, community, or family whose marriages you admire—not because they are perfect, but because they are real and enduring. Reach out and invite them to share their stories over coffee or a meal. Come prepared to listen, ask questions, and show genuine interest in their journey. Be open about your own challenges and let their experiences speak into your life.
Make it a habit to regularly seek their input, especially when facing difficult decisions or seasons of conflict. Take notes on the practical advice they offer, and prayerfully consider how you might apply their wisdom in your own relationship. Cultivate ongoing relationships with these mentors; marriage enrichment is not a one-time event but a lifelong pursuit. As you build these connections, find ways to honor and encourage your mentors as well—everyone benefits from community and mutual support.
If you are single or not yet married, seeking out the wisdom of older couples can shape your vision for marriage and prepare your heart for what lies ahead. Wisdom is not inherited automatically with age; it is sought, received, and practiced. When you prioritize learning from those who have gone before, you lay a stronger foundation for your own future.
Thought-Provoking Questions
- Who are the older couples in your life whose marriages you respect? What steps can you take this week to seek out their advice or learn from their experiences?
- In what areas of your relationship do you struggle to seek or accept advice, and what might be holding you back?
- How has the wisdom of older believers or mentors shaped your understanding of marriage, forgiveness, or perseverance?
- What is one lesson or story from an older couple that you want to remember and put into practice in your own relationship?
Prayer
Father God, thank You for the gift of marriage and for the older couples who have modeled faithfulness, love, and perseverance. Grant me a humble and teachable heart that is open to receiving wisdom from others. Help me to build relationships with those who have journeyed ahead, and give me the courage to seek advice when I need it. May their stories inspire and encourage me to honor You in my relationship, and may my marriage, in turn, become a source of blessing to others. Lead me in Your ways, and use every season to deepen my love, patience, and trust in You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
***The Ten Commandments of Christian Marriage Devotions are not intended to serve as definitive commandments on marriage; rather, they should be regarded as constructive guidelines founded upon biblical principles, designed to safeguard and strengthen your marriage and its enduring legacy.***
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